A quote that I often harken back to frequently in my life comes from Frank Herbert, writer of Dune. In it there’s a quote:
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
The only part of the quote that is deeply embedded within my consciousness is “Fear is the mind-killer.”
That phrase always seem to pop into my head when it comes to the sudden interruptions that happen within my mundane life. Things that I can’t control or the unknown puts me in a dazed and confused state; all rational thoughts become obscure within my psyche.
People around my usually give that same old advice, “Don’t worry about what you can’t control.” “It’ll be okay if you just don’t think about it.” “Everything’s gonna be fine.”
Now there are some people, the “lucky ones”, that can glaze over these little bumps and carry on with their life, but I for one am not one of these chosen few.
Every time a “worst case scenario” presents itself, I lose all sense of myself. Anxiety sets in and soon after fear creeps in and overtakes all of my waking thoughts. My eternal optimistic nature just ups and leaves me fending for my life and its worth.
I tend to overthink things; I start to run every possible, and horrific, scenario in my head on how this situation, accident or illness will end. I know that it’s not good to think like this and it certainly is not good for my health but I’m just a worrier at heart.
I just can’t seem to see the bright side of things and that’s getting me frustrated. Only seeing the negative outcomes rather than the positive is truly destructive in nature.
To quote William Faulkner, “Fear is the most damnable, damaging thing to human personality in the whole world.”
I really believe in that but I’ve come to a point in my life where I’m just fed up feeling like this. I know that I’m better than this and it really is true “Life is too short.”
Every time a hiccup presents itself in my life, no matter how bad, I stop to reflect how far I’ve come in life and take comfort in knowing that there are others in the world that are going through the same thing but in different degrees. Sometimes we encounter a second, a third or even a fourth situation on top of what we’re originally dealing with.
I take stock in my family and friends and a sense of gratitude sets in. Their smiling faces and unwavering support helped me get through the “rough times”. It was a battle that was hard fought but I survived. In all those instances I thought it was the worst thing ever to happen in my life, but I somehow managed to come out alright.
Being positive in light of all the craziness that’s happening around us is a fight in itself but the results will only help to benefit our well-being.
Yes, there will be some rough patches in life where it gets solved quickly and stress free; I will treasure those the most. And I know that there will be arduous times when the struggle will be an ongoing one with no relief in sight, but I’m training myself to see that glimmer of light at the end of that long tunnel.
No matter how dire the situation is, we really need to rely on our family and friends. We need to get into that mindset where we should not go through this “rough patch” alone. That is why I’m trying to adopt a new quote, “Remember the 3 P’s” to combat that “Fear is the mind-killer” lodged within my mind.
Staying Patient, Positive and Persisting on will help me get through any and all future obstacles life throws at me. I will tackle it head on and be victorious!