What I’ve Learned


There were many things that I’ve seen
but none could be more important than
what was in front of me
My DAD worked hard
to provide us with everything,
so I’ve learned to be…
My MOM tended to
my illnesses and injuries,
so I’ve learned to be…
My SISTER had a severe handicap
and dealt with ridicule
so I’ve learned to be…
My WIFE gave hugs with a smile
through all the good and the bad,
so I’ve learned to be…
My DAUGHTER was friendly
to everyone she met
so I’ve learned to be…
My SON sought out things
that were unfamiliar and unknown
so I’ve learned to be…
My DOGS kept me company
when family was not around
so I’ve learned to be…
My FRIENDS were there
to hear every problem and gripe
so I’ve learned to be…
have been with me
through every step of my life
so I’ve learned to be…
These people that I’ve encountered,
made me who I am today
and I’m grateful
for the lessons I’ve learned
through their
unselfish actions.

Midlife Reflections #2


I look back on my life and take stock in what I’ve done and who I’ve become.  The one thing that I take most pride in is my ability to be a good listener.


I’ve always felt that if a person takes the time to tell you something of importance, then you should respect that and give your undivided attention to what he/she has to say.  I try to listen without judgement and really hear the other person’s words.



Too many times we’ve had and “A & B” conversation with someone but somehow ended up with “B” starting another conversation with “C & D” who just happened to pass by.  At that point, you kind of feel irrelevant and try to uncomfortably slink away without being noticed.

In my case, I stay there like a complete doofus because of some sort of self-responsibility to finish what was started.  AND when “B” returns back to the original conversation, the whole vibe is gone.

In my mind’s eye, I felt as if I was not important enough to hold your attention when I was unloading my feelings, advice and thoughts.

It is for that reason, in any conversation, that I look the other person in the eye and soak in what they’re telling me even if an outside party acknowledges me.  My focus on the person is steadfast.  This art of listening is something that I’m trying to instill in my children.


As the days and months go by, life seems to tick away as if it were mere seconds on a clock.  Time is precious.  So when someone needs to talk to you, be there for them…and listen as if they’re the only person left on this planet.